Family first, the rest, next ..........................

i am very much interested in essaying about 'Children' but i am not an expert to write about them because i am not a parent, i am not a child care specialist.

i thought it is good to write something about the 'children of broken families' the way i can

i cannot say that i enjoy a happy childhood. The Reasons, i cannot really name or list. Perhaps, one of the reasons i can think of is poverty.

financial stability plays and important role when it comes to 'families, children and their 'happy childhoods' and most importantly such secures the family ties to some extent other than the social, internal bonds and needs

if a child belongs to a poor family, child doesn't get what she or he asks from their parents.

Such things leads to situations such as 'unhappy parenting' as well as 'unhappy childhood of the children of families.

So to avoid such situations it is really essential to 'aid the financial difficulties of any family structure'

i don't think that it is  a sole responsibility of a government to look after each and every family of a country.

but providing necessary environment is important , for that no government can pay attention to individual family unit but to whole economic, social, and cultural needs of the society including  freedom for them to experience.

hazel free Job opportunities  for who ever expecting jobs would help 'families to provide their children better shelter, education, and to provide other needs

strengthening and protecting and securing what ever facility that a government is delivering for free
, for the people of the country, we can protect and develop the children of the country .

Education  for instance

Free Education is no doubt provides secure childhood and no stress adulthood directly or indirectly the society would benefit from that.

The child should enjoy every right of children, no matter whether such mentioned in local manuals or books of child development

Gaining education through 'Formal Education' , Free education , according to the education system we have and respect  the child should enjoy totally

comparing your child with the children of other families is no good, yet there is no harm in comparing the children of happy families and with broken families to learn something good or to pick and choose something relevant or useful for your child
 


i think due to 'financial incapability' of parents, lack of stability in the financial department of privacy homes, the families may tend to ' break' into pieces, face problems when trying to find needs and wants of the children 

so such families may not enjoy 'peace and harmony' within

so the child who step out of such family background and join the other part of the world as a learner, peer, may show differences ,( issues, lack of confidence in what they do, aggressive behaviours, neglected sort of behaviours etc) compared to the other children  they move, associate with

childhood cannot be rearranged or refixed

therefore it is advisable to let them enjoy secure childhood

it is something that they should enjoy thoroughly and happily

Happy family units always produces a complete child to the society

during 'socialization process' it is so important that child should enjoy the results of happy parenting, happy relationships of parents

sometimes people face social issues related to family, not because of the attitudes of 'self' but because of the mis reading abilities or ill perceptions of the mass society we live

ruining your family can be easily done by the society we live

They are very capable in doing that other than fixing or adjusting or 'rearranging' or soothing your beautiful family

mostly or often 'the family' becomes a ' billa' of the hacking methodologies of the mass society we live

and same happens also due to 'tapping' agendas of rumors or gossippers

But  nobody is using such methods to provide a secure childhood for the child of a country

if you can think of the child, vindya incident happened in Jaffna recently and other incidents happened or reported in other parts of the country, you can have an idea about what i am saying

Gossipers wants something fresh everyday to talk or to discuss , if something happens within a family, that is enough for them

if such situations arise due to what so ever reason, within a family, that may damage the father mother relationships , father child  , mother child relations ships of the family

The society might or might not enjoy such situations, but you cannot forget your responsibilites as a parent

am i accurate?

i can remember everything about my childhood, how we ate, how we taught things, how we were sent to school with limited resources available , 'with the few coins that our parents managed to save

you cannot think of creating an extra ordinary children or adults if you forget the universial theory called ' family first',  the rest, next

It is sad though we sometimes forget our true desires but think of other priorities

i cannot changed my childhood that i was destined to enjoy 

Destinies of children of this country can be changed by providing better secure, happy place for the child to learn at every level of their development

mothers or the wives needs fullest attention of their husbands that may helps 'every member of the family' to enjoy a 'secure and happy family life', socially, culturally and otherwise

Working Mothers , working parents often face social issues due to lack of time they have to spend with the family

The Busyness of the parents often leads to slight issues specially when the children are taken care of by the nannies not by their parents

this isn't applicable to non working mothers

with a good plan of the parents , supporters, well wishers, the children can fully enjoy their childhood

if you can think of the types of the families of a country like ours, in an Asian community you can think of practical difficulties that parents face in child rearing or caring

 the children of The Male Headed Families, The Female Headed Families ( single parent, widowed) show some differences in physical and moral, motor, cognitive development, what ever way you describe the 'development of the child' 

in some families, you find children with special needs, in some families you find parents with disabilities, in what ever situations as such, directly or indirectly affect your child

children within any war zone shows differences with regard to their learning abilities, behavioral patterns

child is a duty of a society. Selfishness of some parents of the society, perhaps, steals the childhood of children

if you take children of an extended family for example, compared to the children of a nuclear family the child is surrounded by many who helps the children voluntarily, helps parents numerous way, positive way in order to develop or to look after the children and such brings positive results at the end

if you take the child of pre- industrial era, the child was known as an immature adult, but , now we know child is a child, an adult is an adult

lets protect the bondage of children  in its fullest way.

And please remember child is a world heritage and a responsibility of the entire universe