We have our own ways of communicating, responding the
way we like, using various set of words that we like or set of what ever may
relevant to the conversation, most of these things depends on the groups or the
people that we may associate with or comfortable in associating or comfortable
in using the ways we like when communicating. Relevance or applicability of
such things are important very specially in the conversation that we make very
formally or publically out side to our peer and near groups of friends or otherwise.
Conversations, discussions I thought is a good topic not
only to have a discussion also to discuss all the relevant or applicable things
including the language we use or the words that we use, (specifically)
We do not use any ‘aney’ or ‘aiyooooooooo’ kind of
words when we are having a formal or sort of framed kind of discussion limiting
it to the allocated time. We generally have formal or academic or framed
conversations sometimes or mostly with the busy personals, frills have no place
in such places of discussions. One can not waste words or time because both
important in what ever discussion that you may arrange or take place having an
purpose or a main objective of the subject that are important knowing.
Oh! I am not sure whether you‘ll like this topic mine.
But that is the way things happen sometimes no. people bring topic of news or
news and news it is we who discuss such things sometimes or think important or
not important. And some bring good, interesting, useful to others locally and
internationally discussable or debatable topics or subjects or news. Some
topics are internationally acclaimed valid or applicable universally they are
important ones.
Some news has political validity some things have socially
or historically valid or important if not useful. When we share or discuss such
things we use the relevant set of words. If anyone discuss something related to
science or spaceship or about air crafts ‘there is no point or others might laugh
at us if we use wordings such as ‘how to cook pol rotte or how to fry banana
fritters accurately. Scientific methods are valid and important in any of the
sciences including human sciences socially acclaimed but one has to know the irrelevances
of the wording that we sometimes use. We often make mistakes in our using of wordings
and sentences.
Some discuss
APOLITICAL things within POLITICAL AGENDAs and some discuss POLITCAL matters or
things putting them in to ‘APOLITICAL FRAME WORKs. To discuss what ever things
that comes under apolitical, political or personal labels or banners one can
not do it alone. It is possible but there are limitations or one has to face
the aftermath results i.e labeling may be.
We need two or more people to have or begin a
conversation. To lead that conversation or to get going of such conversations
to last such or what ever conversation one needs to feel that he/she is truly
in or out of the conversation. This in and out of conversation is important for
people who are truly engaged in the conversations. Who wants to waste their
moments unused silly fully.
People use different strategies to show others that
they are really ‘in’ or attached with the conversations. They help the
involving parties to get going the conversation further or help them to lead
the conversation towards forwards.
You will feel it when you are not connected with the conversations or no connectivity shown this
is important for a further continuation of a conversation. When you say no
connectivity then you are disconnected from the relevant or irrelevant connections
The language patterns or arts of using words and their reactions
shows ones disinterests or interests, likes/dislikes towards the conversations
they were/are in.
If you have watched any interviews/conversations/discussions - Face to Face there are many things that
one can notice or even you yourself can experience and I am sure that we all
have such experiences within our academic, professional peer – friends’
categories of conversations.
Face is a mirror of what people tells you and you can
read their interests or disinterests likes or dislikenesses accurately only if
you are totally in the conversation not half or quarterly attached this helps to
continue conversation further or any longer or whether they are truly
comfortable in the things that you discuss or whether they are well equipped of
the subject discuss is important to know.
Information’ to prove their ideas, ideologies, opinions
or the things that they suggests immeasurably important because then only the
conversation become fruitful at the end.
What ever we or the relavant parties discuss may useful to the big
society or only for a particular group that depends on the subjects you discuss
or maintain a conversation with, including any communities, and finally to the
whole world. This is one of the ways to rate the success-fullness of such
conversations or discussions.
The things you discuss depends on the
group/people/individuals and of course their ‘interests’ – subjects.
Bored or going well ‘energy – fullness, liveliness
‘enthusiasms’ of a conversation truly depend on the people involved. If you
feel dull or bored or dead during a conversation then that will become no use.
The ways of delivering expressions also important just think
of a conversation attached with an audience huge how you truly can impress them
is valid and important.
for an artist ‘their fans’ – are important ‘one need
people to watch the dramas/films – tele or print what ever they create – the
audience is important. You can rate your bonds with them looking at their
faces, sometimes though I am not quite sure about such things I mean rating people
just by looking at their faces.
It is important for people to know when ‘two people’ or
more people in conversation whether others are listening to what they/he/she
say or agree or disagree, like or dislike to their ways of elaborating or
explaining arguing things, subjects, concepts, existing or of coexisting/s (?)
this is a matter of a lastingness or validity of the things they discuss.
When you encounter that others who are in conversation
with you are ‘not interested in listening’ or ‘not reacting to your ideas’,
ideologies or logics ‘you feel really odd’ ‘disconnected’ or you feel
like putting the full stop to the conversation that you were trying to ‘start’
continue or carry on further
Lack of ones words, inexperience’s affects the successnesses
of any conversations or discussions, I like to believe
My sister most of the time never liked what I liked to
talk of or discuss she likes to talk of very day today stuff attached with very
teeny weeny stuff she does not like to touch any complex or things that may
spoils her calmness or quietness’, happiness of her mind or she does not want
me to ruin her mood. J I
agree with her today.
There were days that when I just about to start saying
something she shows her disinterests then there is no way of continuing it she does
not want me to complete at least the first sentence that I am trying to start.
Onna patan gatta
Here she started again
‘Aiyoooo’
Then she nicely
takes both her hands together and shows me like she is venerating worshiping me
kind of action J
“Please stop this nonsense I do not want to hear those
things”
Then my mood changes – (obviously no?)
But whenever (
this is rare though) I discus something that she likes very much ‘situation is
different.
Ahhhhh!
Aththada? (really!)
Ithin …….. ithin ………….
So ……. So……..
Nehah
Nooooooo
So such conversation goes like that with so much fun.
Interesting to watch her face eyes – giggles
I truly have to learn and find some good topics that
she likes to discuss with me ‘hmmmmmmmm she is very busy these days and hardly
find some times to spend with me’ or to have a conversation- she sometimes comes
and hugs me
I too don’t like to end such conversations.
It is same
with me sometimes I am greedy for such conversations and she has two good
friends at her work place so matches with her interests and a good group they
are. Manjula and Roshini are very good friends of her I have so much interests
to hear what they discuss sometimes with eyes full of happiness. only when they
are not very busy.
It is me who sometimes spoils her mood, honestly.
Ah
Before I forget about a month back one of my friends phoned. He
is Kriz he is a good friend though I do not know him too well.
We just spoke of this and that of ‘something’ and he
suddenly said
Mama ithin nikan katha kale
I just phone.
How good it was if he had a reason to phone me I
thought.
I felt little ‘no use’ to continue the conversation.
Even the two voices showed the same I thought at the end.
Oh!
Finally he said that they are planning to go for a
trip.
Ohhhhhhh what a good idea
But I can’t remember I was saying something like that
as a reply to his reaction or question.
Some conversations are like that you feel no joy in
talking to if you feel that they just phone you or when their voice shows a
little ‘lazy’ torn. This is no insulting I am trying to get some data to prove
what I am trying to say. I do the same. Lets think a while in what occasions
that we show our disinterests or do not like to continue conversations and why
sometimes we talk sleepless for hours and hours with our loved, dear near
friends until pm ‘s becomes am s in the morning. Interesting, but that has ‘no
surprises’ in such things.
I do not know how
sharks, Dolphins, and leeches talk to each other or when they meet their
friends from another completely different- peers & then interacts.
Squirrels with squirrels how they talk to each other I don’ think that they
quarrels with each other or with others.
In
conversation with cricket
Yes indeed
That is a marvelous
shot and that’s gone for six
Certainly it is a
marvelous shot
Exactly, exactly
What a shot!
So you‘ve done a course
in how to give cricket commentary’
Exactly, exactly
We did not know that
Oh did I say yes
No I have not done
any courses I am just a mad but a good fan of cricket.
We knew that though
you confused us saying ‘exactly, exactly
What!
You knew it
How
do you know all these even without saying anything to you ‘you have telepathy
right?
No! Wrong I have no telepathy but I
am little televised no no wise at all.
If you clearly think of the dialogue above wrote you
can notice that sometimes we answers or reacts to certain situations when we
are over enthusiastic of something or when we are so thrilled and enjoy
something totally. Then your answers sometimes do not come under ‘accurate’
category but when you are really into the conversation ‘you don’t give wrong
answers or you just don’t say what ever thoughts that catch your moments of
conversations – detached.
Flow of a conversation is important nodding or shaking our
heads towards that side or to some other side or towards down or up what ever
side you shake your head or use body language has a meaning. That may help or
might not help for the continuation of the conversation. I know such things
bring no harm but ones moments -spend has some value. One can not talk nonsense
if you are truly in an important discussion or in a conversation that is
important to you personal or professional political or apolitical.
This is interesting that the remarks we make ‘during an
interview’ or a conversation/s sometimes without thinking too much, most of the
time these things happens unconsciously with out pre planning. You can’t pre
plan how you are going to react to a un- done or not started conversation
before hand. That should come under ‘unplanned’ flow of such conversation one
can not pre plan.
You have to smile sometimes during an interview or
shakes you head or you may have to use certain words carefully.
General conversations with peer and near or dear ones
are different to the well planned and pre planned ‘conversations’/interviews.
They generally have a script (agenda) a questionnaire if you have a clue or if
you are notified of on what topic
direction they are going to discuss or on what matter then can go prepare then
things become different.
If you unexpectedly meet one of your old friends,
relative gone missing for a long time, I can’t think of how they going to start
or end their discussions.
When people read or hear or ‘news’ they have things to
say. Some news they ‘accept or reject’ it is very interesting after news
telecast or while news telecasts – during a tele drama people have things to
say
Ohhhhhhhh
Wow
Sooooooo good
Aney aparade
Aiyooooo
We blame the characters - black (in the drama) and
praise the one we like.
Giving or receiving empathy
I am sure this subject of ‘empathy’ – very popular
these days than any other days before is a very well known subject now amongst
all around world. When you give or
receive empathy ‘there is a particular way to give specifically. When receiving
empathy from some trusted person well trained or one you can trust plus that
you know and sure of not laughing back to you for the things you shared to get
some relief. You should not hide
anything if you are to receive ‘fullest - empathy’.
Self empathy is different. Sometimes when you are
sharing with a person who listens to what you have to say ‘ might not talk to
you in words’ ‘the person might just show you caring touching your shoulders or
keeping your hand together with the person and remember this generally happens
between ‘same gender’ if you are getting this kind of help from a professional apart
from that there is no barriers in giving or receiving empathy there are ways of
giving and receiving empathy outside to professional ways of doing it.
Soooooo I am not quite sure whether you would enjoy
this conversation of mine Ahhhh that is alright no one agrees or disagrees to
the things that we sometimes talk or discuss some agree to some and some disagree
to some.
Hmmmmmmm today is a quite day outside.
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