Paths Links People

Paths Links People

Thonigala Inscriptions are of the 2nd Century BC and carved on Rock. information courtesy;Internet

Thonigala Inscriptions are of the 2nd Century BC and carved on Rock. information courtesy;Internet
Tonigala. (a.) Parumaka Abaya puta parumaka Tisaha wapi acagirika Tisa pawatahi agata anagata catudisa sagasa dine. Dewana pi maharaja Gamini Abaye niyate acanagaraka ca [tawi] rikiya nagaraka ca. Parumaka Abaya puta parumaka Tisa niyata pite raj aha agata anagata catudisa sagasa

History; Path to future

History; Path to future
Reading Future through History, Nagala mountain and the Stupa of the Nagala Kanda Rajamaha Viharaya, Nikaweva, Polpithigama, Kurunegala District.

yesterdays kingdoms enhanced people's today

yesterdays kingdoms enhanced people's today
let us view today through past ...........Kingdom of Yapahuwa - 13th Century

Monday, August 25, 2014

The Bonds and the Neighbours …………………

The following terms; Bonds and neighbours are independent, distinctive, unique components, even in its literal meaning other than the deepest meanings of the terms. But, together it makes a huge difference to any meaningful sentence you write or say, when you speak of something related to its meaning.  ‘For example if you say, ‘the bonded neighbours’ that gives an even more total meaning.

The Bond or the Bandhan in Hindi, (?) Bandhanaya  nkaOkh / ne|Su  is a very important term in its social and cultural aspects other than in any other specific analysis.

Dore aiya  ‘s family is the our very nearest neighbor of our Kandy house, the Mahagedara, the house where we, the siblings, all lived together for a longer period before we all split in to various areas of the country. For example my sister and I came to Colombo and these days lives in Nugegoda my youngest brother lives in Madagalla in Kurunegala District with his wife since about half a year. I am not totally aware of his neighbours in the immediate vicinity but I know most the neighbours are relatives. So the bond, Bandhan or the Sambandaya (connection) is heavy there I believe because they are not just the neigbours but the relatives as well.

The bond that neighbours maintain with each other may differ to each other depending on the nature of the bond that they maintain wit. If the bond is long lasted one or if it is an old bond, often the neigubours maintain much closer relationship. The facets of the relationships of naigbours again, we can think of many. Some neighbours live closer but maintains a distanced relationship but some neigbours lives closer to each other and the relationship too is a closer one.

Depending on the Bandhan that we maintain with each other ‘we request things from our neigbours’, suggest, asks, opposes, help each other but never interfere their family things inaccurately. My father or the Dore aiya never had Ethical Power for that categorical decision making. I am thinking whether my relatives had such power NO I guess.    

My father until he died was the sole decision maker of the family and none of us go and ask Dore aiya for permission for any of the important matters of the Family because he is not the head of Household of our family.  Even now there is no way that my mother allows anyone to interfere any of the family matters or take actions or take decisions on behalf of my family because now after my father died my mother is the head of Household though as adults and independent individuals we take our own decisions personally.

In most the family dealings I know that between family members many discussions take place before something taking in to the ear of the head of household. Especially in this region we live (‘Asian part of the world) the household settings have not totally changed or liberated from the hands of the head of the household. We as Sri Lankans still do not take our matters major or even minor to the ear of the neighbor asking to take decisions. I hope even in India as Indians, still gives a fullest respect to the head of household when it comes to decision making of the family unit. Sri Lanka and India as the societies that have established under patriarchal norms and values, features, ever since the societies, the countries known to outside world have not changed in Family structure / frame work.

Discussions between family members give fruitful results when it comes to something to be decided. I guess I forgot to write I believe, in both the societies (pardon me I have to forget the other societies in the region for a moment) decisions are taken after few rounds of discussions with its family members.

I do not say that every master decision that a family take even after a loads of rounds of discussions are always 100% right or become successful because that involves ‘human capacities and understanding and in a family no surveys done before taking decisions solely depend on TRUST AND STRENGTH. The decisions taken with regard to main society and by a responsible authority/ party gives a different picture and are totally different from the decisions taken by a head of household of a certain family unit. BUT I believe if you take the SOLE MEANING OF TAKING THE FAMILY DECISIONS WITHIN THE UNIT there is no difference whether it’s a huge organization or a institute, country ITS MEMBERS AUTHORIZED HAS THE SOLE RIGHT TO TAKE THE DECISION ACCURATELY THOUGH THEY CAN WELCOME ANY SUGGESTIONS. The history of our country revealed the percentage of discussions that became successful and the decisions that were taken totally accurate or successful way AND THE FAILURES.

I believe the decision taken by the emperor Ashoka FOR INSTANCE to share the philosophy, the Buddhism with his neighbor country that is us SRI LANKA was all time successful decision and that was in the list of historical decisions any can view. That was worth not only culturally, religiously, or socially even politically because that decision which was taken by the emperor back then, strengthened the bond between the two countries.     

That was not in the near past. Let’s analyze an example from the recent past (1987) the decision taken by the Indian Government to intermediate the ethnic struggle of Sri Lanka that the whole country suffered for more than 03 decades.

I am not a person who have studied the INDO LANKA ACCORD which was signed between Mr. Rajiv Gandhi and Ex President Mr. J.R. Jayawardena in 29th July 1987, 100% but as a student who like to study all the historical agreements, political or cultural decisions made between certain parties or any parties related to any specific matters of the country very including the Ethnic conflict, according to most that is the term used to describe its facets I like to analyze a quote respecting my own knowledge , level of understanding without really saying anything about my personal views about the accord.   

We all know the result of the Accord signed back in 1987 but let me quote what Mr. J N Dixit has told about the agreement signed. I guess as the views of an Indian citizen, it is important to weigh what Mr. Dixit’s has shared and revealed and his views with this regard. If you think that Sri Lankans analysis or views with regard to the accord partial or shows a different picture, one can weigh the quote below, after reading it.

“The Indo Lanka Agreement failed because Rajiv Gandhi took the decision to sign the agreement on information and advice conveyed to him by his advisors, which in retrospect were inaccurate and over optimistic”

(Negotiating Peace in Sri Lanka: Efforts, Failures and Lessons / Volume One, 2nd Edition Edited by Dr. Kumar Rupesinghe)

Lets turn in to decisions of any other structure / institution of any possibilities of rates or percentage or success and failures again according to my personal understanding.

According to my personal views

-      How you get information on something is thoroughly important
-      How you weigh the information you collate or get via what so ever sources is important
-       How you Pre test or pro - test the information you get or how you verify the information you get is important
-      If you think that something became failure like above what caused for them to provide inaccurate and over optimistic advice or information to any party involved or that expect advice / information
-      What is the better way to differentiate the impartial facts and partial facts, on what basis
-      If you take a survey data collection parties / enumerators ‘what background / qualifications they hold’ is important. For instance for a medical survey that are very rich in medical terms and understanding an enumerator who has a sociological background may disqualify to collate information because he or she may less or no aware of the terms and facts that are very important to know before collating information but an enumerator with a medical knowledge background suits

-      I guess it is no harm at all to weigh the ‘ IMPACTS’ of what ever decision you take
     For example; impacts short term, long term

      And I know that some times not all the neighbours are well wishers or benefactors often you find strangers or individuals that may not expect your success but expect some benefit for them. careful when you choose sources of help.

May you all become wise not fools! Have an insight full life ahead!     


   


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