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Thursday, October 1, 2015
On Child & Parents affectionately …………………..
For some child is a dream. For some child is an inheritance. For some others child is a Prince or a Princess, an heir of a future crown. For every parent a child is their whole life.
Child is a right
I like to note it that way. But that is for sure for the couples who are legally bonded. For others child is a question, unfortunately.
A child becomes an issue for any woman who lives in a society / world, where some think that a woman who gives birth to a child without getting married to a man legally , is a woman with a bad character or some do not hesitate to label such women as ‘prostitutions’.
That is the situation in the real world we live or in most part of the world.
Some women becomes pregnant without getting legally married, and if cannot chose the option of ‘abortion’, unfortunately chooses the option of either killing the child, dump into a garbage bin, or keep the child somewhere else unsafe for the child.
Whom we should blame, the woman or the society for choosing such options?
I know that it is no easy to change the attitudes of people on ‘actual parenting’, people’s perceptions on ‘child bearing and rearing’
Compared to the years, decades gone passing ‘people’s attitudes towards an unmarried woman bearing a child has slightly changed. But it is not at all satisfactory.
Yes, it is true that today is not the day allocated for ‘parents’ or the universal parents day, today is the day of the ‘universal child’. You find various functions organized, world wide to mark the day. That has been the tradition. Today is not the first day of ‘world’s children day’. How many such days we have celebrated.
What is the success rate?
Why, we still have incidents reported related to ‘insecure children’, the number have not decreased?
It is sad to hear or to read the incidents reported on the children who have becomes victims of HIV. The children who are in the category of ‘unsafe’ due to drug addicted parents are a global issue, I guess.
Children and the parents who live very distanced from ‘the dangerous drugs zones’ are the happiest groups’ in this world. I like to think that way.
The most luckiest children are the children whose parents have fairly reasonable hrs to spend with their children’
Yet, I do not think that the children in live with their foster parents are ‘unlucky’, some times it is the opposite.
You find parents (foster parents) doing ‘the sky high’ things for their children.
If the child gets a chance to enter a well looked after ‘orphanage ‘we have no reasons to fear of the ‘future of the orphans’.
But do not try to set up orphanages everywhere try other options to provide ‘the child a better place to live’, better protection, all socio economic, affectionate needs and wants of a child.
Providing a peaceful environment for a child to live is not narrower, it is something highly wide. For a narrow minded such things are ‘jokes’, or something unimportant. I Very often, as much as possible, purposely use that term ‘peace’, peaceful environment’, peace and harmony’ but not for an ill willed purpose. I very strongly believe that it is the most scares thing in these wars full world. This world that people always live with misunderstandings, fear or with lists of lacks, dues, thinking of their portion this and that.
I do not think that one can discuss anything about ‘a child’ without really discussing about the parents.
I do not know what law describes, what sentences it says, justify that ‘every mother should be a mother with a legal marriage certificate.
I guess the laws protect both the mother and the child that is correct. I do not know what relief the girls / ladies who are not legally bonded to a man get when they become pregnant.
The girl in this modern world I believe is somewhat aware about the ‘results of becoming pregnant without getting the certificate of marriage. I do not know how this modern world describe ‘living together’ as a pre test or a trial before a legal marriage.
The trial becomes a lifelong issue for the ladies (I do not know whether that is a problem for the other party) decided to go for the ‘living together’ option before a legal marriage.
When you find ‘The trust option’ is weak between the involved parties then they have to go for the option of DNA
I think when some try the ‘DND’ option at what ever place, where ever in this world, who will has to pay the bill, finally, the bill of ‘compensation’.
If I say it is the ‘child’ how would you take it?
On the other hand ‘this is a democratic’ world where democracy plays an important role in people’s lives, we cannot question of such rights of human beings.
You get a chance to question such rights only when you forget that ‘democracy does not always appear before you, as a savior.
I do not know whether the list of rights increased or changed over years; Right to talk, right to eat, right to vote, right to have a child, right to sleep etc in this modern democratic world.
It is little sad that in this very democratic world some ladies have not understood the danger of pre tests of living (not the pregnancy tests that I am talking about).
What are the options available or that we can think of ‘for the well being of the environmentally, mentally, socially threatened child’ of this world.
How to avoid the teens becoming mothers? The teens, the pre mature wombs that are not ready to bear a child for a healthy, confident child birth, keep a question before the people of this modern society. That is whether the role of the responsible party, known as ‘parents’ well recognized or identified by themselves tenderly or affectionately or not. Not always economically or politically.
What is the role of the ‘education’ with regard to ‘mobilizing the teen, the girl, the boy, the student on ‘the importance of bonds with a safe key’?
I do not know whether we need to legalize ‘safe abortion’ or give it a more human or legal shape, though it is a sin but for the sake of the child in other words.
Especially, when the mother is not in good health or in good mental situation to rear a child without a father, though the woman of this era is ‘in a very financially sustained position’. ‘Better financial situation of a mother is not the only positive reason for a ‘happy child’. That is why often the child of a single parent family shows some signs of ‘unhappiness’, weakness in their learning processes, often behaves aggressively’, less corporate, do not enjoy the associations of peers, prefer to stay away from other children.
Recently, in this country, we heard a lot of unpleasing news like never before. Perhaps I have not read the papers accurately those days, I do not know.
I guess for a highly busy parent ‘security of a child has become a challenge’, especially when both parents are highly occupied with their carrier tasks, social life. To maximize the time they spend with their children they have to do little sacrifices.
Due to busyness of the modern day parents, the role of the ‘the day time guardians’ become very important and I like to say that should be ‘highly child focused’. I think that is what the most experts believe.
Mostly, parents fear keeping their child with a less known. In a way that is good. That sometimes helps prevent the child facing other problems because some of the parents somehow try to well monitor the ‘day time guardians’
Who are the day time guardians?
How and why it has become a popular profession these days, part time job option for most?
Why you find more day care centers today compared to yester years?
Why now a days we live, you read many advertisements ‘asking for a nanny’ to look after their child.
Why people of this modern world try many other options to train ‘the day time guardians’
The nannies, care takers,( at own homes, day care centers) , the pre- school teachers, the teachers, grand parents
The parents do not fear to send their children to a place where they think that ‘their child is safe ‘. They fear not to keep their child with the grand parents.
Therefore the trust shouldn’t be broke for what ever reasons. You often read incidents world wide, how the child become insecure within such premises.
The role of teachers here ‘is highly important for the well being of the child’
What is your wish, parents? Is it to have ‘a totally happy, secure, nourished in every way child’? or you become professionally happy and nourished ?
Take care children! and you too parents!